Quotes are powerful.  Sometimes I will read a quote and I feel as though that quote was written exactly for me.  In this blog post I am going to list a few of my favorite quotes that have something to do with boundaries.  Boundaries are a very hard thing to navigate.  Most of us have struggled with boundaries at one point in our lives or another.  Why should we set boundaries with ourselves, our friends and our family?

“Setting boundaries is a way of caring for myself. It doesn’t make me mean, selfish, or uncaring (just) because I don’t do things your way. I care about me, too.” ― Christine Morgan

Sometimes we feel guilty for setting boundaries.  We feel bad for saying “No.”  Sometimes we are the ones to guilt ourselves and sometimes whomever it was we said no to is the one to make us feel guilty.  Either way, we feel guilty.  Letting go of that guilt is important.  Instead of feeling that guilt, tell yourself that you are taking care of yourself.  You are looking out for your best interest, and that is a good thing.  

“Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing others.”  – Brené Brown

Think about that for a second.  This quote by Brené tells should us how truly hard it is to set boundaries.  Setting a boundary takes courage.  And when we do set that boundary we are showing love to ourselves.  We are caring for ourselves.  It’s easy to show compassion to others; sometimes it’s hard to show compassion to ourselves.  Show yourself compassion.  Love yourself, even if that means you might disappoint someone else.  In the end that boundary might disappoint someone but it also might help him or her more than you could ever imagine.  

“Letting go helps us to live in a more peaceful state of mind and helps restore our balance. It allows others to be responsible for themselves and for us to take our hands off situations that do not belong to us. This frees us from unnecessary stress.” – Melody Beattie

Have you ever taken on the stress of your friends and family?  Have you ever tried to fix every problem that you have heard of or that comes your way?  If you have then you know the type of stress I am talking about.  When we take on others problems we are adding an obscene about of stress on ourselves.  Also, by doing that we are making them less accountable for their problems as well, which is not a good thing.  LET GO!  Whoa, those are two very difficult little words.  One of the hardest things for us humans to do is letting go.  But I encourage you to try it.  Imagine living in a more peaceful state of mind.  Isn’t that what we all want anyway, to be more peaceful?

Read these quotes, let them soak in.  Think about those boundaries in your life that are either present or lacking.  Are there any boundaries that need to be made. 

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